There are so many gifts and benefits that come from being your authentic self. First we must choose to see them as gifts and we must also choose to show up as our authentic self. This can be a hard concept to grasp at first as most people would say that they are always being their authentic selves. Why would they be any other way?
The truth is that most of us, if not all of us, show up as different people depending on the environment we are in. I am guilty of this for sure. I show up as one person at home and around my family, I show up as another person with my soccer team, another person when I am in class and so on.
If we even take a look at the etymology of the word “person” it comes from the Latin “persona.” The meaning of which is literally ‘mask, character played by an actor.’ So if we are to say we are being a genuine person it literally means we are being a genuine fake. Pretty mind blowing isn’t it? It was to me when I first heard this explained and gets deeper and deeper every time I sit down to think about it. Alan Watts has a great talk about it which you can listen to here.
So then what does it mean to be our authentic self or our real self? I feel that everyone could give a different definition of what it means to them. For this reason I will just give what it means to me and how I feel about this concept. If it resonates with you then excellent and if not that is cool too.
To me, being your authentic self means showing up consistently no matter who you are with or what environment or situation you find yourself in. The most important part here is the consistency. To add to this I would also say that you also feel authentic and free when you are showing up to people. It could be easy to show up as a fake consistently too. There is definitely a fine line to walk here in being authentic and not.
I feel that children are the best example of what it means to be authentic on a consistent basis. They are still pure and have not been conditioned by society to act, look and behave in certain ways. If you want to learn about how to be authentic then you just need to spend time around kids. They will show you the way.
I feel like the first step in being able to show up authentically to others is to be able to show up authentic to yourself. Ask yourself who you really are and who you want to be. Seriously take some time to sit with this, meditate about it or even discuss it with people that are close to you.
I just advised someone I was doing some coaching with to take time out to write down what her authentic self is. What does she do? How does she walk, how does she treat herself and others, and what does she do for fun? Questions like these, among others, will help you dig down to who you are and who you want to be. Never forget that we have the ability to be anyone we want to be and it is definitely a choice. If we do not like who we have been all these years then we have the ability to choose to be someone else.
When we find who we want to be then we can work on being consistent in all areas of our lives. There will be many gifts and benefits to being able to do this.
We will have a greater flow in life and have less resistance to what happens. It will be like we are swimming with the current instead of against it. People will also always know what to expect from us as we always show up the same. They will see the consistency and will appreciate that about you. You will give show them that it is ok to show up as who you really are and that people will love you for it. You will give others the permission to also be authentic in all their relationships.
You will have more energy in your life as you will always be the same and will not have to worry about what mask you are going to wear today or for this event. You can spend more time just being you and being present to the moment.
You will have more fun as you will be lighter, energetically, as you won’t be carrying around so much baggage anymore. You will have a new zest and joy for life as you will begin to see things from a new perspective and even be able to see what is hidden under the masks of others. You will be able to see the authenticity of the world and everything in it. The layers will be peeled back and you will see things as new again.
It is a wonderful place to be at and to play in. I have had glimpses of this place and feeling. I am by no means there yet myself. As I said earlier, I still use many “personas” depending on the situation I find myself in. However, with all the work that I have done over the last few years I have made significant progress and definitely have thrown away some masks. I am on my way to finding my authentic self and beginning to live that truth.
Feel free to leave a comment or send me a message if you would like some help in this area. It can be a difficult road to travel but you do not have to walk it alone. Support is important when wanting to make changes. I have made many changes in my life and am also doing my “Life coach” training right now so I can better support people that also want to change.
Until next time. Stay Free. Stay Curious.