We have all heard someone ask whether the cup is half full or half empty. We have heard good answers given for either side. I am here to set the record straight once and for all. I believe that the cup is always full. Whether or not we are talking about an actual cup or our own lives, the answer is still the same.
Conceptually, all our lives are full. We literally have no room for anything else in our lives. What are they full of should be the real question. Unless we are willing to give up certain things, behaviors, people etc. then we will never have room for anything else to come into our lives.
Most people have jobs that take up a good chunk of their lives. Then there is sleep that takes up another big chunk of our lives. Then if you have a significant other and kids, that can take up a lot of time too. Sports, hobbies, travel and other things take up the rest. Even time spent doing nothing is taking up time and space in our lives. Our live are full even if we aren’t doing any of the above things and just being lazy all the time. Our lives would be full of lazy.
In order to make room for new experiences, opportunities, people etc. we need to be willing to let go of other things. We have to let go because our cup is full and adding anything else would just make it overflow.
I will give an example from my own life to help illustrate the point. Our closets are always full too. I make it a point in my life to go through my closet every couple months and give away the clothes I no longer have use for. Most recently, I did this a couple weeks ago. A couple days after I did this I was given a $200 gift card to Sport Chek by the women’s soccer team that I coach. What did I do with that gift card? I bought some clothes. Closet is full again.
When we get rid of things from our closet, or our lives, we are telling the universe that we are ready for something better to take its place. We are saying that we no longer hold space for that old shirt, or belief system, behavior etc. and that we are ready for something new to take its place.
This works the same way no matter what it is that you are getting rid of. It works like this because our cups, lives, always are full. It can be no other way. We cannot have a life that is only half full or that would not be a life. Even a cup that looks half full with water, still has the other half full of air. In order to add more water, the air has to leave.
It is important that when we do release items, people, beliefs etc. that we are clean and clear on what we want to replace them. If we are not clear on what we want the replacement to be then anything can come and take its place and it would not necessarily be any better than before.
This is an important concept to understand. A lot of people always wonder why they don’t have this and that or why they can’t seem to get ahead. We need to be able to give things up in order to make room for other things. There is no such thing as having it all. I wrote an excellent blog on sacrifice a few weeks ago that explains this too. You can view that here.
To conclude, remember that our cups, and our lives, are always full. If you want something new to come into your life, you have to be willing to let go of something old. It can be no other way. This is a universal law of balance.
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Until next time. Stay Free. Stay Curious.